Have you ever been so mad at your husband that the last thing you wanted to do was pray for him? So have I.

It’s hard to pray for someone when you’re angry or he’s hurt you. But that’s exactly what God wants us to do.

If He asks us to pray for our enemies, how much more should we be praying for the person with whom we have become one and are supposed to love? But how do we get past the unforgiveness and critical attitude?

The first thing to do is be completely honest with God. In order to break down the walls in our hearts and smash the barriers that stop communication, we have to be totally up front with the Lord about our feelings. We don’t have to “pretty it up” for Him. He already knows the truth. He just wants to see if we’re willing to admit it and confess it as disobedience to His ways. If so, He then has a heart with which He can work.

If you’re angry at your husband, tell God. Don’t let it become a cancer that grows with each passing day. Don’t say, “I’m going to live my life and let him live his.” There’s a price to pay when we act entirely independently of one another. “Neither is man independent of woman, nor woman independent of
man, in the Lord” (1 Corinthians 11:11).

Instead say:

“Lord, nothing in me wants to pray for this man. I confess my anger, hurt, unforgiveness, disappointment, resentment, and hardness of heart toward him. Forgive me and create in me a clean heart and right spirit before You. Give me a new, positive, joyful, loving, forgiving attitude toward him. Where he has erred, reveal it to him and convict his heart about it. Lead him through the paths of repentance and deliverance. Help me not to hold myself apart from him emotionally, mentally, or physically because of unforgiveness. Where either of us needs to ask forgiveness of the other, help us to do so.

“If there is something I’m not seeing that’s adding to this problem, reveal it to me and help me to understand it. Remove any wedge of confusion that has created misunderstanding or miscommunication. Where there is behavior that needs to change in either of us, I pray You would enable that change to happen. As much as I want to hang on to my anger toward him because I feel
it’s justified, I want to do what You want. I release all those feelings to You. Give me a renewed sense of love for him and words to heal this situation.”

If you feel you’re able, try this little experiment and see what happens. Pray for your husband every day for a month. Ask God to pour out His blessings on him and fill you both with His love. See if your heart¬†doesn’t soften toward him. Notice if his attitude toward you doesn’t change as well. Observe whether your relationship isn’t running more smoothly.

If you have trouble making that kind of prayer commitment, think of it from the Lord’s perspective. Seeing your husband through God’s eyes-not just as your husband, but as God’s child, a son whom the Lord loves-can be a great revelation.

If someone called and asked you to pray for his or her son, you would do it, wouldn’t you? Well, God is asking.

There is a time for everything, it says in the Bible. And it’s never more true than in marriage, especially when it comes to the words we say. There is a time to speak and a time not to speak, and happy is the man whose wife can discern between the two.

Anyone who has been married for any length of time realizes that there are things that are better left unsaid. A wife has the ability to hurt her husband more deeply than anyone else can, and he can do the same to her. No matter how much apology, the words can not be erased. They can only be forgiven and that’s not always easy. Sometimes anything we say will only hinder the flow of what God wants to do, so it’s best to, well, shut up and pray.

by Stormie Omartian in her book, “The Power of a Praying Wife”

12 Responses to The Power Of A Praying Wife

  1. gloria says:

    this is just what I need.thank God for these message. was hurting and waiting for day break to ask my husband for separation but then I came accross these.indeed God is faithful.

  2. Ibitayo ikekhua says:

    This has just ministered to me. Thank you

  3. Terry says:

    Thanks a lot for the encouraging words ,I have always been doing so and I will just intensify in my prayers.

  4. alberta says:

    this was right on time I thank God for speaking to me through you and this message. thank you so much I will now try this, this was the answer that I needed. stormie

  5. peniel says:

    This is just the spiritual responsibility of every woman to their husbands. Thanks for such revelations stormie

  6. Joel C. says:

    Thank you once again for a life changing message. I was once married, and since I’ve been divorced, my life hasn’t been the same. To all worship members, please take heed to this. Don’t allow feelings of unforgiveness, anger, and resentment separate you from the one you said ” I Do” to. Satan’s primary goal is to drive a wedge between you, and your spouse. Ask The Lord to show/reveal to you the traps the enemy of your souls has placed in your path to keep you in division towards your spouse. Because that’s his job (The Enemy) to drive a wedge between you/spouse, so that the very love, blessings, and favor God have for you each day won’t come to you. Marriage is a very honorable institute in the Eyes of God. So when you see it this way, there will be nothing that will hinder you from showing/expressing your love to your spouse, as long as you all both keep Jesus at the center of that relationship. God bless you all!

  7. amy says:

    thanks,, i think the Marriage is the miracle from God.

  8. PERRY says:

    Words of wisdom about a wife praying for her husband and would also replace the wife part to the husband praying for the wife cox is a 2 way thing putting in mind either can do the hurting also can do the praying. May the LORD our GOD through his SON JESUS give u more wisdom to write more books that would be an encouragement to this race.

  9. elizabeth usha verghese says:

    thank you Stormie for the wonderful revelatin

  10. Friday Bodjor says:

    Thank you very much for this wonderful article. God bless you.

  11. ruth says:

    Thank you for encouraging me to redirect my anger towards my husband to the Lord.

  12. biokpo ayibo says:

    Good one may God bless everyone who is genuienly an allworsip member

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